Hahahas, i think i just blogged an hour ago? Hahahas. But i came across this at someone else's blog and i think it's pretty interesting so i'm here to share it! Oh she was talking about the 'he's just not that into you' book. The last one's funny. Hahahahas.
He's just not that into you if he's not calling you
The "But he's been traveling a lot" excuse
Dear Greg,
I recently started dating a very nice man. He's gentle, he's affectionate, he's attentive. It recently became a long-distance thing because of his work. The first problem is, he really doesn't call me when he says he's going to. Actually, he really doesn't call me that much at all. A week will go by, and then i'll call him, and then he'll call me back four or five days later. But then when he does get me on the phone, it's all "honey" and "baby" and "i miss you so much" and "when do i get to see you again?" Is he just not that into me, or can i just chalk it up to the crazy-long-distance thing?
Gina
Greg's reply:
Hey Crazy Long Distance!
The only distance that's bothering me is the very long distance between you and reality. (Okay, that was a little mean.) Example? In your second sentence you said, "He 's gentle, he's affectionate, he's attentive." But a few sentence later you say, "He really doesn't call me when he says he's going to. Actually, he doesn't really call me that much at all." That is neither affectionate nor attentive. And it's not gentle - it's a harsh clanging bell that rings, "i'm just not that into you." Why, then, is he nice when he calls, you ask? Because men are cowards and they could rather wait until the end of time than give you bad news. For the record, a man who likes you wants to spend time with you. And he'll only settle for talking to you on the phone five times a day when he physically can't get on a plane to come see you.
Don't let the "honeys" and "babys" fool you. His sweet nothings are exactly that. They are much easier to say than "I'm just not that into you." Remember, actions speak louder than "There's no cell reception where i am right now."
He's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you
The "But he misses me" excuse
Dear Greg,
My boyfriend and i had been dating for two years, living together for one. We started fighting and having all sorts of problems. He broke up with me three weeks ago and i moved out. Of course, i'm devastated. The thing is, he calls me all the time. He wants to chat. He asks about my friends, and wants to know how my family is. He likes to keep up with the little details of my life, just as if we were going out. My friends all say i should stop talking to him, but i think he misses me, and i like that. I miss him. I feel if i stay in touch with him, it will remind him of how great i am, and eventually he will realize that we should be together again. What do you think?
Brenda
Greg's reply:
Dear Misty Watered Coloured Memories,
So glad he like to keep up with the Way You Were. Who doesn't need another phone pal, especially since you have a new phone and a new apartment? Put him on hold and listen to me, missy: A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he's not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he's showing up at your new residence to do it in person. If he's not trying to romance your socks off with dates, flowers, and poetry, it should only be because he's too engrossed with his couples counseling workbooks and is prioritizing getting back on the right track. If he's not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he's just not that into you. Stop taking his calls and let him really know what it's like to live without you.
Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing, every day, not to be with you.
He's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you
The "But everyone is doing it" excuse
Dear Greg,
Yes. Breakup sex. It's been hot. Emotional. Amazing. I'm tortured and i love him and i can't stop myself. I thought that you were allowed breakup sex, but now i'm in over my head. Help.
lleen
Greg's reply:
Dear If You Know Better, Why Are You Still At His Apartment?
Hey, girl. Put down the penis, put your clothes back on, and go directly to your best friend's house. Do not find an excuse to stay. Do not think that because of all the crazy hotness of it all, it now means that you're meant to be together. Yes, breakup sex does seem like a good idea, because, hey, it's nice to have sex with someone you know. And it's nice to have sex with someone you have all these dramatics feelings about. It makes it all, well, dramatic. But now you know. It confuses everything and makes you feel like crap, because face it, you're a woman, and women can't separate sex and emotions. (How many times will you make me have to say that? I sound like a jerk!) So now you don't ever have to make that mistake again. Got it? He's not into you. He's into the very-bad-idea-that-masquerades-as-a-good-idea, breakup sex. Over and out.
Don't underestimate the power of sex, even with someone you've been doing it with for a very long time. Especially with someone you've been doing it with for a very long time. Breaking up means not seeing them again, which implies not seeing them naked again. It may be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it's still called breakup sex. No one has yet to rename it oh-my-god-the-sex-was-so-good-we-got-back-together-and-lived-happily-ever-after sex.
Cant wait for the movie! Think it's gonna be hilarious!
Anw, i realise i didnt blog about the 761 day at chel's hse that day! Tuesday! 03.02.2009. It's been really long since we last met as a whole group. Had a really good time although the girls really bullied me. ): Food was yummy. Me and ziyi gobbled down 6 chicken wings. Hahahahas. Ohoh and i must say this. Me and ziyi was late because of KOK MEIYI. She asked us to wait for her at CCK cause she said she finished work and will reach CCK soon. Yea, i dont really know what's her definition of soon eh. But after that she showed us her definition of soon. It was the time period of having 12 trains (one side) reached the stop and 40 minutes passed. Very soon hur. Tsk!
So we reached chel's hse, talked and ate and watched tv. And i started with something that got everyone so crazy. Hahahas. I pinned SE's hair with a really high hump. Hahahas. Got me laughing real hard. And then everyone started dng it. And conclusion was, kok has the steadiest hair. Hers stayed the longest and was the highest. Hahahas. And liza's was too short, so they tied it to be just one standing bunch. Hahahahas!
And after that we decided to have some photo-taking session. And they bullied me. ): ): ): And yes i'm still harping over it. RAH.
PICCAS PICCAS!!
Zomg, SE, you've got a funny face here! Hahahas. And see i made everyone so happy! :D
Look at all those big wide grins!
YOOHOOO!
Babes, more of these gatherings! Without bullying me of course! (:
And i'm looking forward to all those who are learning driving to pass their licenses and kope their parents' car so they can give me a lift home! And so coincidentally, they're all living near me! Hahahahas! Yayyee!
When will i get the time and money to learn driving? And after i get my license, when will i have the money to get a car?
Should i cut my fringe?????
